Posts by Coffee House Girl

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weird "shepherding" phone call

by snakeface in

as many of you know, i recently wrote a letter to the elders telling them to make sure the congregation stays off my property.

in the letter i mentioned that i "left the organization several years ago.

" i have not had any contact with any witneses for about 5 years even though i was not disfellowshipped and not even counseled; i just stopped showing up.. well last night a brother called me (not an elder, just a publisher) but i let the call go to voice mail.

Coffee House Girl

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No More Conventions! ( For Me)

by EmptyInside in

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friends

i'm so relieved not having to go to another convention.

i haven't been to one in two,three years,lost track.

so happy not having to sit for all those hours on an uncomfortable chair,listening to boring talks.. i am thrilled not having to clean public toilets in my best clothes.

Coffee House Girl

Ha! I also have thought in the past couple years when the convention was on & I knew that all the dubs were out of town..."wow this is what a world without JWs is like...aah sweet relief"

CHG

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How to make your exit with minimal pain while still living at home with your parents

by sseveninches in

as requested, i've made a new thread with the info i posted on a previous thread.

this is intended for young jws who have woken up from their anesthesia but still cannot move, or in other words, have learned ttatt but are still living with parents and are afraid of getting kicked out if they make their opinions/findings known.

i am included in this group of people, because i myself still live at home with parents.

Coffee House Girl

Great guidelines, I wish I had come here before my exit...would've handled things differently. Its a good dose of reality for those frustrated and stuck at home with JW parents, and gives hope that there is a way out.

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Starting University in 3 weeks...

by MsGrowingGirl20 in

i'm very excited!

you all helped me to make this decision and stick to it and i thank you all.

eve though my life(spiritual) hasn't been sorted yet...i'm really looking forward to this!

Coffee House Girl

Congrats! I remember being nervous starting out in a major university, everything was so vast and people everywhere, I seemed like a small fish in a large pond. But now in two weeks I start my junior year, classes are getting really interesting (now past those pesky gen-eds), and I am getting to know others in the same program as me- so that large pond is reducing to a comfortable place where I get to mingle with those sharing similar passions for art history and similar career goals!

Remember to utilize your JW past, you know how to study- take good notes- and write papers (sister's talks were at lease three pages typed for me...so term papers will be a snap!)

Stick with it, you wont regret it! Best of Luck!

CHG

46

Lost my best friend (man's best friend)

by Coffee House Girl in

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just wanted to write a tribute to my best friend whom i lost last week, it was one of the most painful experiences i have ever been through.

i have no children, my puppy was my child.

i got him from a golden retriever rescue organization when he was 2. he was recovering from a car accident, still a bit skiddish, but he chose me to take him home (the foster mom said that he never responded to anyone like he did me).. he was always happy to see me, greet me with a toy in his mouth, he never judged me, never cared whether i was "bad association", he was always there when i needed to smile and remembe that i was not alone in the world.

Coffee House Girl

Thanks Cofty! You are my hero of the Day

Thanks again everyone for sharing your furry friend stories, they bring a tear to my eyes too.

CHG

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Lost my best friend (man's best friend)

by Coffee House Girl in

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friends

just wanted to write a tribute to my best friend whom i lost last week, it was one of the most painful experiences i have ever been through.

i have no children, my puppy was my child.

i got him from a golden retriever rescue organization when he was 2. he was recovering from a car accident, still a bit skiddish, but he chose me to take him home (the foster mom said that he never responded to anyone like he did me).. he was always happy to see me, greet me with a toy in his mouth, he never judged me, never cared whether i was "bad association", he was always there when i needed to smile and remembe that i was not alone in the world.

Coffee House Girl

Thank you all for your words of condolence and sharing your pet stories with me, it is comforting to read them all and know there are so many animal lovers out there. I think pets do teach us JWs and exJWs the true meaning of pure unconditional love.

I thank you all and I hope to get a pic of my beloved watson up so you can see how cute he was

CHG

46

Lost my best friend (man's best friend)

by Coffee House Girl in

jw
friends

just wanted to write a tribute to my best friend whom i lost last week, it was one of the most painful experiences i have ever been through.

i have no children, my puppy was my child.

i got him from a golden retriever rescue organization when he was 2. he was recovering from a car accident, still a bit skiddish, but he chose me to take him home (the foster mom said that he never responded to anyone like he did me).. he was always happy to see me, greet me with a toy in his mouth, he never judged me, never cared whether i was "bad association", he was always there when i needed to smile and remembe that i was not alone in the world.

Coffee House Girl

Thanks for all your replies everyone! My golden had a good life, my family loved him very much. I am sorry that cancer took him so quickly. I have never been through having to put a beloved pet to sleep before, I stayed there with him until he was gone. It was so intense to look him in the eyes one last time and say I love you. I am heartbroken, and will be for some time.

Thanks again for your support,

CHG

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Lost my best friend (man's best friend)

by Coffee House Girl in

jw
friends

just wanted to write a tribute to my best friend whom i lost last week, it was one of the most painful experiences i have ever been through.

i have no children, my puppy was my child.

i got him from a golden retriever rescue organization when he was 2. he was recovering from a car accident, still a bit skiddish, but he chose me to take him home (the foster mom said that he never responded to anyone like he did me).. he was always happy to see me, greet me with a toy in his mouth, he never judged me, never cared whether i was "bad association", he was always there when i needed to smile and remembe that i was not alone in the world.

Coffee House Girl

Hello all!

Just wanted to write a tribute to my best friend whom I lost last week, it was one of the most painful experiences I have ever been through. I have no children, my puppy was my child. I got him from a golden retriever rescue organization when he was 2. He was recovering from a car accident, still a bit skiddish, but he chose me to take him home (the foster mom said that he never responded to anyone like he did me).

He was always happy to see me, greet me with a toy in his mouth, he never judged me, never cared whether I was "bad association", he was always there when I needed to smile and remembe that I was not alone in the world. He was there for me when my husband left, when I left the organization, when my dad died, he was my rock and angel.

I encourage anyone to give rescued dogs a chance ( I want to again after I heal from this)!

Love you all

CHG

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Knowing the Real Truth about the "truth" when you're stuck inside...

by OneDayillBeFree in

...sucks.

(warning: this could get lengthy but i have to vent and i could really use some advice).

i know ttatt and have known about it for almost 2 years, yet i'm still stuck inside.

Coffee House Girl

I have been in your shoes too & I feel for you! I am glad your suicidal thoughts have passed & you are focused on small goals (that is very smart, this is a stressful process and you need to focus on one thing at a time). I also made a plan that took a few months, although I did move out on my own 3 years prior to my actual exit (I wanted to leave back then but was too scared to leap into the unknown). Your hall is splitting, could it be possible to move to the opposite hall of your parents, in order to help the other hall "spiritually" (wink, wink)?? That would get you out of the watchful eye of your folks, or even say you want to learn sign language or spanish and join a foreign speaking hall? This has worked for many faders since your family will think you are uber spiritual and the foreign speaking bros & sis are too busy to notice if you are really making spiritual "progress" or not.

I had a lucky break when my family was having some major health issues which distracted their minds and allowed me to start making friends on the outside by visiting my local coffee shop.

I think anything you can do to try to distance yourself will help. (you are on their radar now...they are watching your behavior). Be patient, armageddon is NOT comming any time soon and you have a long life ahead of you.

I started college after my exit, and I am financing the whole thing on student loans to pay back later. You can start research now on scholarship programs, and college admission requirements, FAFSA, you can do this without your parents help. If you are under 18 you can research emancipation, but if you are close to being of legal age...just hang tight until you are 18.

That is my two cents, I identify with your frustration and anguish, it does seem like there is no light at the end of the tunnel..but you will get there!

CHG

23

Punk got shunned HURRAH!!!!

by punkofnice in

so i was da'd last september as a 'mentally diseased apostate'(tm) that the 'jehu elders'(tm) should 'slaughter'(tm) if the law of the land allows it.. i now get shunned in the street and i think it's so childish of the dubs to do so.

one family that shunned me was a family i bent over backwards to help them when they had to move house.

their loss...i won't help them again!.

Coffee House Girl

I experience a mixture of emotions when I get "the shun", half annoyed...half amused. I give the biggest smile I can and say hi anyway, then laugh it off. It still hurts when it is a friend or someone you had a history with, but you are right, none of the thoughts that run through my head when it get shunned include remorse or a desire to go back. It just makes me ashamed that I used to be the one who shunned people, I become angry with myself for being a heartless drone, it is just sick.